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Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No)

Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No)

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 10, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 53 | December 10, 2025 Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No) Most of us learned that sex = penetration. Everything else? Foreplay. Warmup. Extra. But that model is outdated, limiting, and honestly? It’s been sidelining everyone’s...
Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google

Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 3, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 52 | December 3, 2025 Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google This is Part 4 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the partner experience. When ED happens, all the attention goes to the person experiencing it....
How Do You Tell Your Partner You’re Struggling with Erectile Dysfunction?

How Do You Tell Your Partner You’re Struggling with Erectile Dysfunction?

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 26, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 51  | November 26, 2025 How Do You Tell Your Partner You're Struggling with Erectile Dysfunction? This is Part 3 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the conversation. Less than 60% of men experiencing ED talk about it with their partners. That...
How Erections Work and What Happens When You Have Erectile Dysfunction

How Erections Work and What Happens When You Have Erectile Dysfunction

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 19, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 50 | November 19, 2025 How Erections Work and What Happens When You Have Erectile Dysfunction This is Part 2 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week, we’re exploring the mechanics of erection. Many penis owners do not know how their body works below...
Can We Talk About the Emotional Weight of Erectile Dysfunction?

Can We Talk About the Emotional Weight of Erectile Dysfunction?

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 5, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 49  | November 5, 2025 Can We Talk About the Emotional Weight of Erectile Dysfunction? This is Part 1 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. Not the mechanics or the fixes —we’ll get to that later. This episode is about the part nobody talks about… the...
The Rejection Story That’s Keeping You From Good Sex

The Rejection Story That’s Keeping You From Good Sex

by Stacey Herrera | Oct 29, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 48  | October 29, 2025 The Rejection Story That's Keeping You From Good Sex In this episode, Stacey explores the rejection stories we tell ourselves and how they affect our sex lives.  She shares a story about a boundary violation that turned cruel and breaks down...
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The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into something it wasn’t. You don’t even remember what really happened. You remember the last version of the story you told yourself about it. Now you’re comparing your real relationship to a memory that’s been filtered and simplified. When it comes to s*x and desire the distortion gets worse. This episode breaks down why we romanticize what we “used to have” and how it pulls us away from what we have now. Listen before you convince yourself that the past was better. #RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfGrowth
Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are you paying attention to only three spots? I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode. Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗. You can thank me later. 😉 #sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex. So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t? Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.” This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame. Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla #VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past. #lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything. #emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either. You were reacting to what it reminded you of. To the wound. To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe. Being sensitive isn’t a flaw. But it’s not an excuse either. If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present. Discomfort doesn’t always = danger. A request isn’t rejection. Not every pause means abandonment. Sometimes love is there. But you can’t hear through the noise. #emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
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