EP 66 | March 25, 2026
Most People Don’t Want the Real You (And That’s the Problem)
When people say they want to know you, they often mean they want to know the version of you that they are most comfortable with.
In this episode, Stacey explores the gap between authenticity and comfort. What we reveal, what we hold back, and why intimacy often requires more friction than we’re willing to tolerate.
Because somewhere along the way, we learned that showing up fully was a risk not worth taking.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Ryan Dunlap – Former hostage negotiator and founder of Conflictish. Check him out on Instagram or YouTube
- Book: “How to Untie a Balloon” by Ryan Dunlap
The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.
On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”
Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.
Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).
Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.
No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!
If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.
People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!
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