Sometimes people cheat because they feel invisible to the person they’re already with. It’s not always about wanting someone new.

In this episode, Stacey gets into why some affairs stem from a lack of fulfillment rather than lust. Drawing on her history as both the cheater and the cheated on, she breaks down the loneliness that thrives inside relationships that look completely fine on the surface.

This isn’t an excuse for breaking trust. It’s about the harder question underneath it all. What are you actually hungry for?

Mentioned in this episode:

1. The Contribution of Stressful Marital Interactions to Loneliness and Health across Mid-life and Later Adulthood
2. AARP Survey: 40 Percent of Older Adults Are Lonely

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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