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How Finding Love Taught Me to Embrace Sexuality in Its Many Forms

How Finding Love Taught Me to Embrace Sexuality in Its Many Forms

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 5, 2018 | Essays

This post is part of The Beauty of a Woman BlogFest VII! To read more entries and potentially win a fun prize, visit the fest page on August McLaughlin’s site between today and 11 pm PST on March 9th.   What makes sexuality beautiful? I consider myself pretty...
Pussy weights, sex chats, & the chihuahua effect w/Jen Pavich

Pussy weights, sex chats, & the chihuahua effect w/Jen Pavich

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 28, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Womanhood is a continuous rite of passage. We are in a constant state of becoming. Evolving and growing. Shrinking and expanding. We are our mothers as much as we are ourselves.  And we are now being inaugurated into the new old world. A world where autonomy is...
Allowing pleasure, seeing diversity, & looking at vulvas w/Myola Woods

Allowing pleasure, seeing diversity, & looking at vulvas w/Myola Woods

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 7, 2018 | Podcast Archives

We are living in a time where diversity is rising to the surface. We are being called to embrace our sameness as well as our differences. That means looking at every facet of our humanity and accepting what is currently real and true. We are all at different points on...
Evolution, needing vs. needy, & what’s next

Evolution, needing vs. needy, & what’s next

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 31, 2018 | Podcast Archives

2018 is in full effect and the energy is very different than the previous year. I am feeling divinely led to take my time and cultivate an environment that feels nourishing and sustainable. While simultaneously allowing myself to explore new things, entertain big...
Swallowing semen, the truth about being unattractive,  + Cardi B w/ Stephanie Williams

Swallowing semen, the truth about being unattractive, + Cardi B w/ Stephanie Williams

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 17, 2018 | Podcast Archives

  Women’s empowerment is at the forefront of every conversation these days. Voices are speaking up, what has gone on in the dark is being dragged into the light, and “Times Up” has become a battle-cry. Gone are the days of turning the...
Reclaiming Cunt, breaking through, & relationship-ing w/Sophia Wise One

Reclaiming Cunt, breaking through, & relationship-ing w/Sophia Wise One

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 10, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Womanhood is a multidimensional experience. We birth nations and carry the weight of the world on our backs. The pain of our foremothers is twined in the helix, transmitted generation after generation. Trauma has been sewn in the lining of our womb… and still,...
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The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into The past wasn’t perfect.
But you’ve edited it into something it wasn’t.
You don’t even remember what really happened.
You remember the last version of the story you told yourself about it.
Now you’re comparing your real relationship
to a memory that’s been filtered and simplified.
When it comes to s*x and desire the distortion gets worse.
This episode breaks down why we romanticize what we “used to have”
and how it pulls us away from what we have now.
Listen before you convince yourself that the past was better.

#RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfGrowth
Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
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