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Pussy pH, funky spunk, & defining “woke” w/Winter White

Pussy pH, funky spunk, & defining “woke” w/Winter White

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 3, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Relationships… it all comes back to that, right? How we relate to everything and everyone in our environment informs the quality of our lives. Yet, we spend so little time investing, really investing, in the relationships that mean the most to us. Life is bigger...
The other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh Montavon

The other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh Montavon

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 15, 2017 | Podcast Archives

Sexual assault/misconduct/harassment has been a hot topic this year, along with a slew of other button pushers. Not because these things are new, but because the chickens have finally come home to roost. Voices have been activated and are being broadcast on every...
Curiosity + Boundaries + Intimacy = Full Expression

Curiosity + Boundaries + Intimacy = Full Expression

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 23, 2017 | Podcast Archives

I have made 44 trips around the sun, and I was unknown to myself for most of the journey. But making the choice to be present for everything changed everything. And I don’t know if I have ever felt more of myself than I do right now. Everything about the woman I...
Wage slavery, delivering whoop-ass, & ticking the monogamy box w/Melissa Danielle (pt 2)

Wage slavery, delivering whoop-ass, & ticking the monogamy box w/Melissa Danielle (pt 2)

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 15, 2017 | Podcast Archives

Life always serves opportunities for expansion. Whether it be in love or business, at work or at home, the peeling back layers of yourself never ceases. But when you open yourself to the possibilities evolution is inevitable. And truth be told, you will evolve whether...
Defining monogamy, sex work, & women need consent too w/Melissa Danielle (part 1)

Defining monogamy, sex work, & women need consent too w/Melissa Danielle (part 1)

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 8, 2017 | Podcast Archives

Relationships are the cornerstone of the human experience. How we relate to one another and how we relate to ourselves creates the texture of our lives. Yet, we rarely invest the kind of time and attention that healthy relationships require. From neglecting our...
Naked yoga, herpes, and authentic yoni love w/Giavanni Scott

Naked yoga, herpes, and authentic yoni love w/Giavanni Scott

by Stacey Herrera | Nov 1, 2017 | Podcast Archives

The womb is a gateway, a portal from which souls reincarnate into flesh once more. A sacred passageway to and from the ether. The womb is a reflection of the Universe. A physical manifestation of the creative thread that unites every thing.  My guest this week is...
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The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into The past wasn’t perfect.
But you’ve edited it into something it wasn’t.
You don’t even remember what really happened.
You remember the last version of the story you told yourself about it.
Now you’re comparing your real relationship
to a memory that’s been filtered and simplified.
When it comes to s*x and desire the distortion gets worse.
This episode breaks down why we romanticize what we “used to have”
and how it pulls us away from what we have now.
Listen before you convince yourself that the past was better.

#RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfGrowth
Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
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