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Should Your Romantic Relationship Be the Center of Your World?

Should Your Romantic Relationship Be the Center of Your World?

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 18, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 65  | March 18, 2026 Should Your Romantic Relationship Be the Center of Your World? There’s an unspoken rule in most relationships. Romance goes to the top of the pile. Everything else gets what’s left over.  In this episode, Stacey questions that.  ...
Financial Stress Might Kill Your Sex Life (We Should Talk About It)

Financial Stress Might Kill Your Sex Life (We Should Talk About It)

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 11, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 64  | March 11, 2026 Financial Stress Might Kill Your Sex Life (We Should Talk About It) My father used to say, “Two broke people can’t be happy.” At 17, I thought that was the most unromantic thing I’d ever heard. Now I get it. Financial stress doesn’t just...
1-in-3 People Avoid Discussing Sex with Their Partner. Do You?

1-in-3 People Avoid Discussing Sex with Their Partner. Do You?

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 4, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 63  | March 4, 2026 1-in-3 People Avoid Discussing Sex with Their Partner. Do You? Are you avoiding conversations about sex with your partner? You’re not alone. Research shows people avoid talking about sex with their partners, even in long-term...
What If You’re the One with the Low Sex Drive?

What If You’re the One with the Low Sex Drive?

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 25, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 62 | February 25, 2026 What If You're the One with the Low Sex Drive? When you’re the one who wants less sex, the conversation is almost never about you. It usually centers on the person who’s not getting laid. Let’s flip that. In this episode, Stacey...
5 Causes of Sexlessness in Otherwise Loving Relationships

5 Causes of Sexlessness in Otherwise Loving Relationships

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 18, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 61  | February 18, 2026 5 Causes of Sexlessness in Otherwise Loving Relationships You love each other. You’re both committed. But you’re not having sex. Sexlessness in otherwise loving relationships is more common than you think. And it rarely comes...
How Sex Becomes a Source of Conflict in Longterm Relationships

How Sex Becomes a Source of Conflict in Longterm Relationships

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 11, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 60 | February 11, 2026 How Sex Becomes a Source of Conflict in Longterm Relationships Why does sex become such a charged topic in long-term relationships?  Most of the time, you’re not really fighting about frequency, desire, or who initiates. You’re...
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The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into something it wasn’t. You don’t even remember what really happened. You remember the last version of the story you told yourself about it. Now you’re comparing your real relationship to a memory that’s been filtered and simplified. When it comes to s*x and desire the distortion gets worse. This episode breaks down why we romanticize what we “used to have” and how it pulls us away from what we have now. Listen before you convince yourself that the past was better. #RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfGrowth
Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are you paying attention to only three spots? I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode. Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗. You can thank me later. 😉 #sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex. So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t? Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.” This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame. Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla #VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past. #lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything. #emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either. You were reacting to what it reminded you of. To the wound. To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe. Being sensitive isn’t a flaw. But it’s not an excuse either. If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present. Discomfort doesn’t always = danger. A request isn’t rejection. Not every pause means abandonment. Sometimes love is there. But you can’t hear through the noise. #emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
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