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Allowing pleasure, seeing diversity, & looking at vulvas w/Myola Woods

Allowing pleasure, seeing diversity, & looking at vulvas w/Myola Woods

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 7, 2018 | Podcast Archives

We are living in a time where diversity is rising to the surface. We are being called to embrace our sameness as well as our differences. That means looking at every facet of our humanity and accepting what is currently real and true. We are all at different points on...
Evolution, needing vs. needy, & what’s next

Evolution, needing vs. needy, & what’s next

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 31, 2018 | Podcast Archives

2018 is in full effect and the energy is very different than the previous year. I am feeling divinely led to take my time and cultivate an environment that feels nourishing and sustainable. While simultaneously allowing myself to explore new things, entertain big...
Swallowing semen, the truth about being unattractive,  + Cardi B w/ Stephanie Williams

Swallowing semen, the truth about being unattractive, + Cardi B w/ Stephanie Williams

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 17, 2018 | Podcast Archives

  Women’s empowerment is at the forefront of every conversation these days. Voices are speaking up, what has gone on in the dark is being dragged into the light, and “Times Up” has become a battle-cry. Gone are the days of turning the...
Reclaiming Cunt, breaking through, & relationship-ing w/Sophia Wise One

Reclaiming Cunt, breaking through, & relationship-ing w/Sophia Wise One

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 10, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Womanhood is a multidimensional experience. We birth nations and carry the weight of the world on our backs. The pain of our foremothers is twined in the helix, transmitted generation after generation. Trauma has been sewn in the lining of our womb… and still,...
Pussy pH, funky spunk, & defining “woke” w/Winter White

Pussy pH, funky spunk, & defining “woke” w/Winter White

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 3, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Relationships… it all comes back to that, right? How we relate to everything and everyone in our environment informs the quality of our lives. Yet, we spend so little time investing, really investing, in the relationships that mean the most to us. Life is bigger...
The other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh Montavon

The other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh Montavon

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 15, 2017 | Podcast Archives

Sexual assault/misconduct/harassment has been a hot topic this year, along with a slew of other button pushers. Not because these things are new, but because the chickens have finally come home to roost. Voices have been activated and are being broadcast on every...
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Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
A relationship is only worth saving when both peop A relationship is only worth saving when both people are willing to put in the effort.

#midlife #relationships #ittakestwo #relationshiptipsandadvice
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