The other rape, denying white privilege, & the teachings of Judy Blume w/Leigh Montavon

by | Dec 15, 2017

Sexual assault/misconduct/harassment has been a hot topic this year, along with a slew of other button pushers. Not because these things are new, but because the chickens have finally come home to roost. Voices have been activated and are being broadcast on every platform. Victims are becoming more empowered as the voices of freedom continue to ring.

Inappropriate sexual behavior has gone unaddressed for far too long, but that’s over now. A new day has dawned and the reckoning has begun. What goes on in the dark… 

In this episode, I sit down for a chat with Leigh Montavon (a.k.a. Sex Coach Leigh) and this conversation is juicy. Leigh’s mission is to help people, ALL PEOPLE, to reclaim their sexuality. And I love her for her commitment to making sex safe and delicious for all bodies

In this episode, we explore:

Rape, consent, pity sex & manipulative coercion 

Denying white privilege 

⇒ emotions labor & opting out

Coming of age books and the books of initiation


“If you don’t prioritize sex, I promise you… you’re just not going to have it”  – Sex Coach Leigh                       

About Leigh Montavon:

Leigh Montavon is a Sex Coach and Clinical Sexologist, as well as a writer, educator, and mother. She specializes in working with, and is strongly connected to, the LGBTQIA+, kink, and non-monogamous communities.  She is passionate about creating a safe space for folks to explore and ultimately discover the truest version of themselves and offers sex and relationship coaching to individuals in the Los Angeles area and via Skype from anywhere in the world.. Leigh believes that a healthy sexuality is key to a happy life, and she deeply values body positivity, sex positivity, comprehensive sex education, intersectional feminism, and social justice. 

Visit Leigh’s website… and you should totally follow her on IG, Twitter, and Facebook too!


The following is mentioned in this episode:

‘Girls & Sex’ And the importance of talking to young women about pleasure – NPR Interview w/Peggy Orenstein

Forever by Judy Blume

Ordeal by Linda Lovelace

Go Ask Alice by anonymous

Carol by Patricia Highsmith

Magician’s Impossible by Brad Abraham

Watch Me Disappear by Janelle Brown

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