by Stacey Herrera | Feb 28, 2025 | Sage + Grace
Twenty years ago, I watched a friend rewrite the history of her relationship. We were tucked in a cozy corner, at Paco’s Tacos. With each dip of her chip, her former boyfriend morphed —from the man she once called “The one” to someone who “Wasn’t sh*t.” I nodded...
by Stacey Herrera | Feb 14, 2025 | Sage + Grace
The orgasms were amazing —literally, the best sex I’d ever had. But the emotional depth left something to be desired. To be clear, this wasn’t a fleeting affair. We were lovers for nearly two decades, tangled up in one another for most of my adult life. He...
by Stacey Herrera | Jan 31, 2025 | Sage + Grace
Sometimes, I desire what hurts. The things that make no sense, that friends warn me against, things I know I should steer clear of. But desire has never cared about shoulds and shouldn’ts. It simply wants what it wants. Desire ignores social norms and cultural...
by Stacey Herrera | Jan 17, 2025 | Sage + Grace
Over the years, I have come to recognize the voice of shame. There is always a disclaimer that sets up the excuse, followed by a quiet negotiation with ourselves about what we’re willing to accept. These conversations often happen in front of unwitting...
by Stacey Herrera | Dec 27, 2024 | Sage + Grace
It’s one of those late nights in the kitchen—the kind where truth slips out between sips of brown liquor, good cheese, and broken pieces of dark chocolate that melt slowly on the tongue, making for bittersweet confessions. It’s the kind of night when...
by Stacey Herrera | Dec 13, 2024 | Sage + Grace
She showed me her phone’s draft folder over coffee last week. Not the usual kind filled with half-finished work emails or shopping lists, but a different sort – a digital sanctuary of truths too raw to send. Got me thinking about all the messages we save but...
