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Is Monotony Killing the Buzz in Your Sex Life?

Is Monotony Killing the Buzz in Your Sex Life?

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 21, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 57  | January 21, 2026 Is Monotony Killing the Buzz in Your Sex Life? Autopilot is not a good thing in relationships. But that doesn’t mean that monotony is the enemy. When you’re on the routine hamster wheel of same place, same thing, it’s hard to tell if you’re...
Is Your Sex Life Doomed When You’re Recovering from Sickness or Surgery?

Is Your Sex Life Doomed When You’re Recovering from Sickness or Surgery?

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 14, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 56 | January 14, 2026 Is Your Sex Life Doomed When You're Recovering from Sickness or Surgery? We plan for everything around surgery except sex. Time off work. Stocking the fridge. Help with the kids. Recovery logistics. We handle all of it. But what happens to...
Will Setting Sexual Intentions Improve Your Sex Life? Maybe So…

Will Setting Sexual Intentions Improve Your Sex Life? Maybe So…

by Stacey Herrera | Jan 7, 2026 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 55 | January 7, 2026 Will Setting Sexual Intentions Improve Your Sex Life? Maybe So… Why isn’t setting sexual intentions a thing? You set goals for your career, health, finances, relationships. But your sex life? That’s supposed to just… happen...
How Can You Own Your Wanting When You Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction?

How Can You Own Your Wanting When You Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction?

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 17, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 54 | December 17, 2025 How Can You Own Your Wanting When You Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction? This is the final episode in our 6-part series on erectile dysfunction.  Over the past five weeks, we’ve talked about the weight, the mechanics, the...
Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No)

Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No)

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 10, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 53 | December 10, 2025 Do You Need an Erection to Have Great Sex? (SPOILER: No) Most of us learned that sex = penetration. Everything else? Foreplay. Warmup. Extra. But that model is outdated, limiting, and honestly? It’s been sidelining everyone’s...
Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google

Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google

by Stacey Herrera | Dec 3, 2025 | Sex IRL Podcast

EP 52 | December 3, 2025 Erectile Dysfunction Is Hard on Relationships. Top 4 Questions Partners Google This is Part 4 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the partner experience. When ED happens, all the attention goes to the person experiencing it....
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Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
A relationship is only worth saving when both peop A relationship is only worth saving when both people are willing to put in the effort.

#midlife #relationships #ittakestwo #relationshiptipsandadvice
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