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Squirting, positive social proof, & eating the cake too! w/Carmen Rene

Squirting, positive social proof, & eating the cake too! w/Carmen Rene

by Stacey Herrera | Jun 13, 2018 | Podcast Archives

“All the world’s a stage,” that has never been truer than it is right now. Social media has given a voice to the voiceless, offered a platform to the disenfranchised, and eliminated the barriers between us and them. Virtual movements have taken...
The intimacy crisis, hating on joy, & decriminalizing sex work w/Biba Atta

The intimacy crisis, hating on joy, & decriminalizing sex work w/Biba Atta

by Stacey Herrera | Apr 19, 2018 | Podcast Archives

The age of social media has ushered in a different kind of connection. But it seems that more and more people are feeling lonely and isolated, even while being perpetually plugged-in 24-7-365. Now more than ever, people are craving intimacy and closeness. The desire...
Tithing your time, sexual limits, & making yourself cum w/JeTuan Jones

Tithing your time, sexual limits, & making yourself cum w/JeTuan Jones

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 28, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Spirituality is the new black. It goes with everything and it doesn’t discriminate. Every moment holds the possibility for a spiritual experience. But there is one caveat… spirituality requires presence. Spirituality is not the absence of adversity, it is...
Transactional sex, surrendering control, & octopussy w/Andrea Klunder

Transactional sex, surrendering control, & octopussy w/Andrea Klunder

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 14, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Relationships and business go hand in hand. A relationship can nourish or destroy a business, and vice versa. They have a tendency to mirror one another, like sex and money. Some relationships can survive a business start-up, but the majority do not. If one person is...
How Finding Love Taught Me to Embrace Sexuality in Its Many Forms

How Finding Love Taught Me to Embrace Sexuality in Its Many Forms

by Stacey Herrera | Mar 5, 2018 | Essays

This post is part of The Beauty of a Woman BlogFest VII! To read more entries and potentially win a fun prize, visit the fest page on August McLaughlin’s site between today and 11 pm PST on March 9th.   What makes sexuality beautiful? I consider myself pretty...
Pussy weights, sex chats, & the chihuahua effect w/Jen Pavich

Pussy weights, sex chats, & the chihuahua effect w/Jen Pavich

by Stacey Herrera | Feb 28, 2018 | Podcast Archives

Womanhood is a continuous rite of passage. We are in a constant state of becoming. Evolving and growing. Shrinking and expanding. We are our mothers as much as we are ourselves.  And we are now being inaugurated into the new old world. A world where autonomy is...
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Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40
You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations
Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice
It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice
Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing
A relationship is only worth saving when both peop A relationship is only worth saving when both people are willing to put in the effort.

#midlife #relationships #ittakestwo #relationshiptipsandadvice
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