I spent years mistaking intensity for intimacy, choosing complicated over calm because at least I knew the steps to that dance. When someone consistently showed up—no games, no drama —it felt empty. But it wasn’t about them. It was about how foreign safety felt to my nervous system.

In this week’s episode, we explore seven reasons why we sometimes distance ourselves from good love, heading straight for the familiar territory of “it’s complicated.”

Sometimes, the hardest part isn’t finding good love – it’s letting ourselves receive it.

Plus, exciting news about Sovereignty, my new program for women ready to move beyond understanding their patterns to actually changing them. Early bird pricing coming soon.

xo,

Sovereignty. Four phases… one transformative journey.

Get on the waitlist: https://staceyherrera.com/sov-waitlist

The Five-Second Pause (exercise)

When you feel that familiar urge to create chaos or pull away from something good, pause for five seconds (one one-thousand, two one-thousand, etc.) – just notice what’s happening in your body without trying to change it. The pause isn’t about choosing differently; it’s about creating enough space to notice that you have a choice.

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