I often hear people refer to trust as something that occurs outside of themselves. A transaction that takes place between two or more people. We’ve been conditioned to think that people must “earn” our trust.
But I don’t believe the hype.
I don’t think that we have to trust other people at all. Sounds crazy, but I’ve got your attention.
You ever notice that when people feel guilty (especially if they’re lying) they get the worse case of verbal diarrhea? All of a sudden they begin to answer questions that you haven’t even asked. Their heart begins to race, beads of sweat pepper their brow, and any attempt at a smile seems unnaturally forced. Guilt has a very BIG mouth.
“To thine own self be true” – William Shakespeare
February is the month when Cupid gets to spread love far and near. Roses are plucked and arranged by the truckload. Chocolate gets melted, molded, and devoured. Men everywhere are given a golden opportunity to buy their way out of the proverbial dog house.
Traditionally speaking, most romantic relationships are between two people. Or are they? I believe that there is always a third party involved. Party number three is usually uninvited, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can choose your own third wheel, or go with the default. Just know that the nature of your relationship hinges on your choice.
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“You’re imperfect and you are hardwired for struggle, but you are worthy of love.” – Brene Brown
This is one of my favorite quotes, not because it’s so profound, but because it’s so true. Even still it took me a long time to really get this. On a fundamental level I have always understood that I’m imperfect (we all are), but that did not stop me from striving for perfection (a.k.a. trying to be something that I’m not).
One of my girlfriends has been encountering some resistance from one of her co-workers lately. They were joking and she made what she thought was an innocent comment and he went ballistic on her. The comment wasn’t personal and it didn’t relate to him directly at all, yet he was completely offended, so much so that he has since stopped speaking to her altogether.
This is the time of year to give thanks, right? I mean that’s what Thanksgiving is all about, isn’t it? Well I’m here to challenge that notion, not because I don’t believe in gratitude, but because I think it is should be practiced all year-long.
I often find my heart swelling with gratitude for no good reason. While standing sipping tea at the kitchen counter, gratitude will seep into my bones, warming me up from the inside out. Or while speeding down the highway, sunroof open, sun kissing my cheeks – in steps gratitude, causing me to break out in song, smiling from ear to ear (which often results in crazy stares from neighboring vehicles).
I know life seems really hard at this age, growing up is big business. It feels like you don’t fit in, like you’re constantly going against the grain, but don’t you worry. Your unique spirit will carry you far in this life. Don’t waste your time and energy conforming, because it’s just not who you are. People will not always get you, but there will be so many that not only get you, but who will respect your views and seek your wisdom.