EP 74 | May 20, 2026
This Is Your One and Only Sex Life. There Are No Do-Overs.
Long-term relationships have a way of settling into routine. Same person, same bed, same sex, possibly on the same night of the week.
In this episode, Stacey gets into why the sexual do-over is a myth. And how you could be overlooking the eroticism in the sex you’re already having.
Resources mentioned:
- Mono no aware – Japanese concept
- Translation: “the pathos of things”
- In other words… the bittersweet realization that everything is transient.
The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.
On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”
Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.
Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).
Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.
No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!
If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.
People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!
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