This is Part 1 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. Not the mechanics or the fixes —we’ll get to that later. This episode is about the part nobody talks about… the emotional weight.

In this episode, Stacey explores what it feels like to live in a body that’s changed. The heartbreak and the inconvenience. The way masculinity gets hitched to erections. 

In this episode:

• The pressure to maintain an erection
• 3 ED archetypes: pretenders, withdrawals, and searchers
• Why ED feels lonely despite billions of targeted ads
• How shame keeps men from speaking up

Next week: The physiology of erectile dysfunction and why knowing matters.

Resources + References:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5503428/ 

https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/21/4/296/7614307

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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