EP 72  | May 6, 2026

Survival Instinct or Real Love? Why We Reach for Our Exes

Sometimes exes come back into your life because they missed you. But there are times when they return because their life unraveled without the structure you provided..

In this episode, Stacey explores the difference between reconciliation and retreat. Between love and survival instinct. Knowing the difference can change everything.

Survival Instinct or Real Love? Why We Reach for Our Exes

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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