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The past wasn’t perfect. But you’ve edited it into

The past wasn’t perfect.
But you’ve edited it into something it wasn’t.
You don’t even remember what really happened.
You remember the last version of the story you told yourself about it.
Now you’re comparing your real relationship
to a memory that’s been filtered and simplified.
When it comes to s*x and desire the distortion gets worse.
This episode breaks down why we romanticize what we “used to have”
and how it pulls us away from what we have now.
Listen before you convince yourself that the past was better.

#RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfGrowth

Your skin is your largest sex organ. So why are yo

Your skin is your largest sex organ.
So why are you paying attention to only three spots?

I’m breaking down what to do with all that real estate in this week’s episode.

Comment 53, and I’ll send you the 🔗.

You can thank me later. 😉

#sexover40 #bodypositivity #relationships #beyond40

You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have

You don’t need pain, props, or power play to have great sex.
So why do so many people feel embarrassed when they don’t?
Somewhere along the way, vanilla got mislabeled as “bland.”
This essay makes the case for satisfaction, sans the shame.

Read it here: staceyherrera.com/vanilla

#VanillaSex #Intimacy #SexualShame #DatingAdvice #LoveAndSex #SubstackCommunity #HonestConversations

Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in

Let go of anything that no longer serves you... in other words, don’t trip over your past.

#lettinggo #healing #movingforward #leavingthepastbehind #relationshiptipsandadvice

It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the pe

It’s worth it to get emotionally naked with the people we want to truly see us, even if that means risking everything.

#emotionalnakedness #takingrisk #beingvulnerable #vulnerability #midlife #connection #healing #relationshiptipsandadvice

Maybe you weren’t overreacting. But you weren’t re

Maybe you weren’t overreacting.
But you weren’t responding to what they were saying either.

You were reacting to what it reminded you of.
To the wound.
To the version of you that had to read between the lines to stay safe.

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw.
But it’s not an excuse either.
If you never check the filter, you’ll keep responding to your past instead of your present.

Discomfort doesn’t always = danger.
A request isn’t rejection.
Not every pause means abandonment.

Sometimes love is there.
But you can’t hear through the noise.

#emotionalwounds #innerwork #relationshipdynamics #relationships #emotionalhealing

Stacey Herrera

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