EP 56 | January 14, 2026
Is Your Sex Life Doomed When You're Recovering from Sickness or Surgery?
We plan for everything around surgery except sex.
Time off work. Stocking the fridge. Help with the kids. Recovery logistics. We handle all of it.
But what happens to your sex life during recovery? Nobody talks about that. Not with the doctor. Not with each other.
Sometimes bodies need repairs, especially after 40. The question isn’t if… It’s when.. And how will you handle it when it does?
In this episode, Stacey talks about navigating sex when you’re in recovery mode. This isn’t tips for “keeping the spark alive,” but the reality of desire with nowhere to put it, and how to work through it together.
In this episode:
- Managing expectations (what’s realistic given the circumstances)
- How resentment builds when you don’t talk about it
- Leading with grace and curiosity
- How to keep the sexual energy flowing when you can’t do it
Sex in real life sometimes looks like not having sex at all for a while. It doesn’t mean your sex life is over. It means life is lifeing.
The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.
On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”
Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.
Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).
Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.
No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!
If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.
People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!
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