Last week, we discussed the penis owners’ scorecard. This week, we’re talking about vulva owners who perform pleasure.

Moans that are a little too extra. Making that “feel good” face to make them feel good. And putting on a show, even when the sex is mediocre at best.

Sounds like generosity, but smells like performance.

In this episode, Stacey explores:

• Why managing someone else’s feelings is actually manipulation
• How faking it cheats your partner out of a chance to get better (sex is a skill, not instinct)
• The hidden cost: they think they know you, but they don’t—they only know the role you’re playing
• What happens when nobody gets to see what’s actually real for you

This one’s for vulva owners and anyone carrying feminine energy. But if you’ve ever performed to keep the peace? It’s for you too.

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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