This week, we’re talking about being better partners when your person doesn’t have the bandwidth for sex.

What it looks like to hold space without expectations. What it’s not. How non-sexual touch builds intimacy and trust. And why both people get to have feelings—disappointment and exhaustion are both valid.

When you can say no without being punished, you get to say yes from a place of authenticity.

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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