EP 51 | November 26, 2025
How Do You Tell Your Partner You're Struggling with Erectile Dysfunction?
This is Part 3 of a 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. This week: the conversation.
Less than 60% of men experiencing ED talk about it with their partners. That means more than half are keeping it to themselves—and silence creates distance.
In this episode, Stacey shares two contrasting stories: one where pretending ruined the experience, and one where honesty created intimacy from the start. Then she breaks down how to actually have the conversation.
In this episode:
- When and where to talk about ED (hint: not right after it happens)
- What to say and what not to say
- Expanding your definition of sex
Talking about it won’t fix the ED, but it takes the pressure off. But once you name it, you liberate yourself.
Next week: Part 4. The partner experience and the questions they’re secretly Googling.
Resources + References:
The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.
On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”
Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.
Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).
Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.
No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!
If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.
People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!
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