This is the final episode in our 6-part series on erectile dysfunction. 

Over the past five weeks, we’ve talked about the weight, the mechanics, the conversations, what partners experience, and sex beyond erections. But we haven’t talked about… wanting.

One casualty of ED is desire. You stop letting yourself want. No fantasizing or anticipation. No imagining or longing. You disconnect from this part of yourself because wanting something you don’t think you can have feels too painful.

But when you disconnect from desire to protect yourself from disappointment, you don’t just lose sex. You lose something essential —aliveness.

In this episode, Stacey explores how to let yourself want again.

In this episode:

• How shutting down sexual desire bleeds all over your life
• The difference between arousal and desire
• Gifting yourself permission to want 
• Desire in its most valid form is to “own the wanting.”

You don’t need a body that works like it used to. You just need to let yourself feel again.

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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