EP 75 | May 27, 2026
How Can You Be Irritated and Aroused at the Same Damn Time?
There are things that our partner says or does that grate on our very last nerve. But sometimes, as annoyed as we may be, we find desire bubbling to the surface.
In this episode, Stacey gets into the alchemy of irritation and desire, and why the thing that drives you absolutely batshit crazy might also stir your loins.
Suggested Reading:
Arousal transfer (a.k.a. Excitation transfer):
The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.
On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”
Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.
Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).
Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.
No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!
If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.
People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!
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