You want to protect your kids from the pain. But you also don’t want to lie to them. So do you tell them about the affair?

Whether you stayed together or split, whether your kids are minors or adults, this question comes up. 

There is no one right answer.

In this episode of Sex IRL, Stacey explores the complexity and nuance of deciding whether to tell your kids about infidelity. 

Find out how to think it through.

In this episode:

• The tension between protection and honesty—both instincts make sense
• Privacy vs. secrecy: one protects, the other hides what affects everyone
• Where your kids are at: their age, capacity, and whether they can (or want to) hold this truth
• Why this decision shouldn’t be made alone if the relationship survived

This one’s messy. There are layers. But that’s what makes it worth talking about.

The podcast churns the motor. The stack keeps it running.

On Substack, I dive into the juicy stuff that needs more than 15 minutes. The kinda things that make you go “humph, I never thought about it like that.”

Like why great sex requires emotional labor nobody talks about.

Or why men with smaller dicks are often better lovers (spoiler: it’s about skill, not size).

Or how asking, telling, and listening might be the only sex enhancement you actually need.

No hot takes or how-to guides. Instead, I’m laying down essays that sit at the intersection of nuance and oh damn!

If you’re tired of that Cosmo essential tips and tricks shit and you want the good stuff in the second half… join us.

People who talk about sex have better sex. Go figure?!

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