I’m Stacey

Pronouns: She/Her
Love Style: Polyamorous
Relationship Status: Partnered & Open

I do relationship work for grown ass humans.

That means talking about sex, intimacy, and connection without beating around the bush.

I’m not a therapist. I’m not a sex expert. I’m just someone who’s comfortable saying the things that make some folks shudder.

I host the Sex IRL podcast, write on Substack, and offer resources for people over 40 who are navigating sex and relationships in bodies that have changed, with histories that are complicated, and desires that don’t fit into cute little boxes.

This work exists because I got sick and tired of being sick and tired of seeing the gap between romanticized love + sex and what it’s really like relationshiping in the wild.

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Stuff You Might Want to Know About Me…

  1. I believe good sex starts with honest, often awkward, conversations.
  2. Jalapeños are my favorite fruit.
  3. I’ve had several relationships end because of unexpressed needs.
  4. White natural fiber sheets are non-negotiable.
  5. I’m in a committed relationship with French fries.
  6. My partner and I are both in therapy.
  7. I still get nervous before hitting publish, especially the sexy stuff.
  8. In my world, bedrooms are for two things: sleeping and fucking.
  9. I take my tea with cream, vanilla, and a smidge of sugar.
  10. I’m in the middle of a sister sandwich, that’s why I know how to read the room.
  11. Sea salt baths are part of my spiritual practice.
  12. I wholeheartedly believe that fucking up is the fastest way to learn how to love yourself and others.