I have been forty for 4 months, 23 days, 3 hours, and 51 minutes. Although I am only a recent inductee into Club Forty/Forty, there are a few things about being 40-something that I want to clear up.
Six Myths about 40 -debunked:
6. You’re old
According to the CDC the average life expectancy is now 78.7 years old, but the people I know are living much longer than that. There are tons of people in the centennial society these days. That means you haven’t even hit the half way mark yet. So shut the old folk talk down, today.
5. You’re not as attractive as you used to be
This one is true, you’re not as attractive as you used to be, because your hot factor has more than doubled in the last 20 years. There is nothing sexier than somebody that knows something. Not just heard it through the grapevine stuff, but been-there-done-that kinda stuff. Knowledge is power and experience is the best teacher. You’ve been through some things and that is sexy as hell!
4. Your sex life is over
Sex after 40 is fantastic! You know what you want, what you like, and what doesn’t feel good. You know how to ask for what you want (and you’re not shy about it). And most of all… orgasms are always on the menu.
3. You should act your age
How exactly should a 40-year-old act? Your feelings are the only barometer that matters. If you made it to 40, you’ve earned the right to act however you want to act… and please make sure your wardrobe reflects how YOU feel – don’t let the opinion of others dictate your wardrobe.
2. This is all there is
There is no such thing. Everything is constantly changing. So don’t worry yourself thinking that you’ll be stuck in a 40-style groundhog day. Life is going to change with or without your permission. You can change things on your own terms or take whatever comes your way, your choice. Either way, this is not all there is.
1. You’re supposed to have your sh*t together
There is no age when you have all your shit together. As long as you are breathing and taking up space on this glorious planet you will learn, evolve, and fuck up. Mistakes will be made. You will discover something new about yourself, every day. You will grow weary of the things you used to love. You will want to destroy everything. You will reinvent, reincarnate, and be reborn – over and over again.
What myths have you heard about being 40?
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