43 relationship factoids + suggestions (in no particular order):

1. If you struggle to “get” a man/woman or “keep” a man/woman… your mindset needs an adjustment. 
2. Never compare your last relationship to your current one.  
3. If you believe that all men are dogs… you’ll likely date and/or marry a dog. 
4. Without respect there is no love – period. 
5. Women are wired for connection… so if you think you “don’t need a man/woman,” you’re right… but you want one. Admit it. 
6. No matter why your last relationship ended, there is a piece that you must own. Accountability is everything. 
7. It is not your partner’s job to manage your feelings. 
8. You bring a lifetime of experience to every situation… and whatever is going on in the present is never about what’s happening right now. 
9. Relationships require routine maintenance, just like your car. 
10. You must have a life outside of your relationship. Nourish your friendships too. 
11. Truth is widely subjective.  
12. Disagreements are healthy.  
13. Words hurt. 
14. Peace is possible. 
15. Communication is necessary. 
16. Laughter is essential. 
17. It’s only as serious as you make it. 
18. There is no black or white, only shades of grey.  
19. People only change when THEY are ready, not when YOU are ready.
20. There is no single definition for infidelity. Come to a mutual agreement – early.  
21. Sex matters.  
22. Social media can ruin your relationship – fast.  
23. Drama is optional. 
24. Regular cuddles will strengthen your bond… and decrease pain frequency too. 
25. Opposites really do attract. You really don’t want to be with someone just like you – trust me. 
26. Love it largely biological.
27. Hormones are real. 
28. It’s healthy to be attracted to someone other than you partner (acting on that attraction is a different story) 
29. Self-consciousness destroys intimacy. Instantly
30. Gratitude makes a difference. 
31. Kissing improves dental hygiene. (true story) 
32. Love makes everything taste better. 
33. Your soulmate enters your life to help you evolve. And that doesn’t always mean staying together. 
34. You will seek someone who can hurt/disappoint you in familiar ways. 
35. Asking for what you want increases your chance of fulfillment. 
36. Focusing on the qualities you enjoy about your parter will improve the health of your relationship. 
37. Intimacy and sex are two different things, that sometimes intersect. 
38. Disinterest is the leading cause of divorce. (my opinion, but it’s 100% accurate)
39. Don’t ask for more than you’re willing to give. 
40. When you take care of yourself, you are taking care of your partner.  
41. Energy is a 3rd party in every relationship. 
42. Don’t ever stop flirting with each other. 
43. The things you don’t say are always more harmful than the things you do.